How Are You Perceived?

I came across an interesting article today on Emotional Intelligence. (You can find the whole article here)

Essentially, emotional intelligence is the ability to perceive that which goes unsaid – body language and looks. The better you are at reading them accurately, the more successful you can be. While the article is written with a business bent, the principle still applies. How many times have you misjudged someone because you thought they were acting a certain way for the wrong reason? Take a look at these 2 charts found with the article and see if you may have made a misjudgement in the past.

10 misconceptions of how others view you:

Believing you are – When perceived by others as

Shrewd – Sly
Confident – Arrogant
Humorous – Inappropriate
Energetic – Hyper
Having Strong Opinions – Opinionated
Passionate – Impulsive
Strong – Rigid
Detail oriented – Nit-picking
Quiet – Passive
Quiet – Indecisive

10 misconceptions about others:

Believing they are – When they are actually

Moved by passion – Moved by facts
Moved by facts – Moved by passion
Fun loving – Serious
Serious – Fun loving
Looking for a reason to buy in – Looking for a reason to buy out
Looking for a reason to buy out – Looking for a reason to buy in
Wanting to be told – Wanting to be asked
Needing to be convinced – Ready to buy
Ready to buy – Needing to be convinced
Excited about your company – Thinking your company is a dog

Try to keep this in mind the next time you’re talking with someone – it could give you a new perspective on what they are actually feeling or communicating.

About Matthew Starner

Matthew Starner is pastor of Journey of Faith Church in Grand Rapids, Michigan, where they help people take their next step on their journey with Jesus.

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